Today I am grateful for my parents. I didn’t have the best relationship with them growing up, but that’s because we didn’t understand each other. At 25 I look back at some of the things my parents did, and didn’t do and I can see where they were coming from. Not that they were the best decisions, but it was the best thing to do at the time. In their minds of course. My parents like to play it safe, and as a result I was safe. I grew to not be able to connect with others as easily due to trust issues, and my already introverted personality was reinforced. I didn’t become more social until college. I think one of the only reasons I haven’t crawled back into my shell, is because I have to talk to people all day at work! But besides that, my parents made sure we had everything we needed, and pushed us to be successful. I try to talk to them as much as I can, and form a new type of relationship. Yes, I am still their child, but I am not a child. I am an adult now, and there are boundaries. I am not required to listen to them. I will however, ask for advice or their opinion.
No longer does my dating life have to be a secret. I actually want to know what they would do, or how they made it work for them.
I learn about the harsh realities of corporate America and the real world from them.
The guidance that I didn’t care much for as a child, I desperately long for now.
So parents, don’t be upset if your kids seem distant, or like they don’t like you. Many times they will come back and tell you that you were right. But be mindful that they are no longer kids. You have to respect them and their wishes.
Kids, be sure to talk to your parents. Let them know they were right. Let them know you appreciate them. Let them know now that you have boundaries that must be respected.
Thanks for reading.